It is very easy to get caught up in feeding our children, clothing,educating, training , teaching, and on and on. This this is endless. But to cherish them is a different time and effort.
Webster’s defines cherish as to hold dear, to show affection for, to keep or cultivate with care. It is more being than doing. It is taking the time from the lists of things to do and simply share in your child’s sense of wonder. My “littles” are now 4 and 6. Where did the time go? I take great delight in watching them enjoy life.
My husband bought some new swings for the swing set yesterday. My 4 year old was off running. I heard him yell”thanks, Dad” as he ran as fast as he could to keep up with the rest to play on the new swings. Of course, they weren’t up yet. But the look on his face was wonderful to see. My 6 year old loves to sit on my lap and I type one handed at the keyboard still and loves to sing. I see my now 10 year old daughter looking so grown up but still loves Mom to brush her hair.
Time Speeds By
In the movie Yours, Mine and Ours (one of my favorite, the one with Henry Fonda and Lucille Ball) the most poignant line is when she is writing to her husband away at sea. “The days seem long but the weeks stream by.” I remember when I had 5 children 6 and under, it seemed like the days would never end and I would collapse into bed at the end of the day. As older mothers would say, you’ll miss this one day. I do. I don’t have the energy I did with my older children, but I wouldn’t give it up for the wisdom I have gained. Although, it certainly would be nice if my children would share a little of theirs. I stop more and look and listen. I love to watch them. That used to feel like a waste of time, to just sit and watch. But as time keeps speeding up I don a lot more of that. Some from less energy and I hope some from just being wiser.
Today I have a list of things to do. But one thing on that list is a hot dog and marshmallow roast with my children, whether the rest of the list is done or not.