Why I Write to Young Moms
I am no longer a young mom but I do remember the struggles of not knowing what to do or if I was doing it correctly. I had only one family member close by and she had Alzheimer’s. Not much help there. And I never felt like I measured up. That all the other young moms had it more together and were doing it better. I lived by my to-do list, checking off boxes to feel that I had accomplished something that day.
Living Life in God’s Grace
I now try to live every day in grace. God has so much more grace that He gives to us. Far more than I am willing to give to myself. Sound familiar? This is what I want for you. I want you, young moms, to live in God’s grace. You are the perfect mother for your child. You are enough. Whatever self doubts you have about someone else knowing more, doing it
Finding a Mentor
Titus 2: 3-5 talks about the older women teaching the younger women, but it is hard to find. When I was a young mom there were a couple of older ladies in church I would ask questions. I was a mom with many young children and no family around for help. But there were 2 older ladies in the church I felt comfortable enough to ask questions after a while. I was a little fearful because I thought my questions were stupid. I should already know the answers. Or that they would find out what a failure I was by not knowing this or that. Hint for older women; don’t appear so perfect that it’s intimidating for anyone to ask you for help.
But older women are to teach the younger women how to love their husbands and children, model behavior and become homemakers. Things that are lacking because we are not taught. So many women and men do not know how to cook. We don’t know as many homemaking skills as our grandmothers did and are becoming lost art.
As an older woman, I want to come
Questi0ns I Get Asked Most Often
Besides the number 1 and 2 questions; Are they all yours? And do you know what causes that? are some here.
How many do you have?
I have 10 children who I went through labor with; ages 35, 33, 31, 25, 24, 22, 20, 18, 15, and 12. We have 7 daughters and 3 sons. And we had 5 daughters in a row before we had our first son. And yes, !!!! Boys are way different. So cumulatively I have over 200 years of motherhood. Because I get asked that a lot too. And yes, I’m also a grandma.
Are They All the Same?
No, in a previous post I mentioned how much knowledge I will need from raising her 6 older sisters to teach my youngest daughter. I can see similarities in some things but they are so very different. And I also see things I have taught them, that they surpass me in. And it’s great.
How Many Did You Have Home at One Time?
The most we’ve had at home at once was 8 children. We have a large gap that makes that the reason. The hardest years were when we had 5 children 6 and under and 2 teens and a tween. That was hard. But, it was still good.
How Did You Get It All Done?
I didn’t and that’s okay. I know that now. I still don’t. But it’s ok to let some things go and other things you learn to be efficient. There’s a lot of talk on batch tasking and I did that and didn’t know what it was called them. I did a lot of meal prep ahead and once a month cooking. When I sewed, I did a lot at one time and then not again for a while. There are a lot of tasks that can be done this way.
How Do You Afford It
That’s the question I get asked the most; that’s not so obvious. I have a lot of posts on saving money and will be adding more. The biggest expense for a large family and that’s where the biggest savings come too. I buy in bulk, use discount stores, batch cook, only buy on sale and a lot more I’ll be sharing.
The Last Thing You Need to Know is That I’m Committed to Helping You
I’ve been absent this year a while but am working ahead now to be a help to all of you young moms out there who want a mentor. I’ve had several trials this year, we’ve moved twice. Our children have been in 3 different schools, we cleaned out and worked on my in-laws place thinking if living there. Only to find out it wouldn’t work. One child graduated. We’ve had 3 surgeries and my last one was a doozy. I had my entire foot rebuilt. And that’s just the big stuff.
But, I want to help. There’s a young mom in our church, I’ve been so blessed to be able to help. And I’ve gotten the privilege of holding this sweet baby.
Too often, we’ve wished the days would go by and be in the next stage. It’ll be here sooner than you think. And it doesn’t slow down, it’s just different. Embrace today. Play a game, laugh at a joke, hug someone. make a memory.
Leave a comment below on questions or how I can be helping you.